Things You Must Be Selfish About During Wedding Planning

December 8, 2015 3:23 am Published by

Here’s an absolute truth about weddings: Even though you and your fiancee are the ones getting hitched, everyone from your mum to the mailman will throw in opinions about exactly how the big day should go down.

The advice should always be heard and appreciated, but never forget that this is your day and you get the final say.

Not sure where to start drawing the lines? Here’s 10 instances in which you should absolutely stay true to your heart during wedding planning.

Your wardrobe

Whether you’re searching for a flowing white dress or a Solange-inspired jumpsuit, your friends and family will have an opinion on your wedding day attire.

It’s easy to get caught up in what everyone thinks, but don’t let their opinions overpower yours. If you don’t feel comfortable and confident in something, it’s not the right option, no matter how many people in your dressing room say otherwise.

Here’s a tip: Head to your first appointment solo, and choose three or four options you like. Bring the group for the second appointment, that way you won’t be talked into something you don’t want.

The catering

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Food, glorious food. It can make or break your wedding reception and, though many people are oblivious to the hours of thought, preparation and presentation that go into what you and your guests are served on your big day, cooking for a wedding is an art form that requires your caterer to be able to make a big impression.

If the food is bad, guests will talk. On the other hand if the food is great, guests will definitely remember it.

The caterer you hire will be representing you at the event. So take your time, and choose carefully.

For flavours you won’t forget check out CNK’s menus.

The wedding party 

Your wedding party should be filled with the people who have loved and supported you on the journey to becoming the person you will be when you walk down that aisle; it does NOT have to be made up of only siblings and/or people who have asked you to be in theirs.

There’s also no right or wrong number of bridesmaids or groomsmen to have, and the sides most definitely do not have to be even.  If you need more help, here are a few extra guidelines to picking your wedding party.


The more guests, the more expensive the wedding. There’s no hard and fast rule on which guests get to bring dates, so that means it’s ultimately up to you and your fiance to decide how to handle them.

Don’t feel pressured to let every second cousin and friend of your father’s bring someone extra. If, however, it is important to you that a person be there, but it would be awkward for them to attend alone, they should be one of the first guests to get a plus one.

Kids at the reception

Asking guests to leave their little ones at home isn’t meant to be a dig at friends who have children! It’s a way to minimise chaos and ensure everyone’s focus is on the celebration at hand. Inviting tots adds extra work to your plate in terms of keeping them entertained and finding appropriate food options. If you want to keep things kid-free, be sure invitations are addressed only to the parents.

Following tradition 

There’s no right way to have a wedding. If the garter toss or cake cutting doesn’t feel quite right to you, don’t do it. If you’d prefer to host the cocktail hour before the ceremony, feel free. While the more traditional crowd might not agree with your twists on wedding customs, this day is not about them. It’s about celebrating what makes you and your fiance unique as a couple, so go what with what feels right to you.

All this being said, there is one opinion you can’t ignore during wedding planning: your partner’s.

It’s just as much their wedding day as it is yours, so it’s important you work together to create a day that’s meaningful to both of you.

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